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Today, I wanted to talk about some of the foundational work I feel that people should think about and do as they figure out if non-monogamy is the relationship style for them. Actually, I feel that people should do these things even if they are monogamous, to pinpoint exactly what they want to include in the different types of relationships that everyone has (romantic, sexual, platonic, business, familial, etc).

"I can barely keep one happy".
This title is inspired by all the folks who, whenever they find out that I'm not monogamous, say that exact sentence to me.

I really wanted to talk about this because I do think that this is a valid concern that many people have.

Contrary to what a lot of people think, I don’t hate monogamy. (Matter of fact, most non-monogamous people I know don’t either.)

I hate that people don’t make conscious choices.

Some find it very easy to merge kink and non-monogamy, while others do not. The difficulty could be chalked up to interpersonal dynamics, as one of the things that many find the hardest to reconcile is non-monogamy vs power exchange dynamics…